Pregnancy Journey : OB/GYN Shopping

27 Oct

Hello again readers!

In this post, I will let you know all the OB/GYN I have visited, how do I feel about them, how much is the fee and the pros/cons. Since this would be most beneficial for Indonesian readers, I will write in Bahasa Indonesia.

Memilih OB/GYN tentunya jadi salah satu crucial decision saat kita memasuki kehamilan. Honestly, saya udah went through more than 5 OB/GYN kayaknya karena saya punya riwayat Lymphoma Non-Hodgkin dan period cycle saya yang ga menentu. Berbagai macam faktor mulai dari harga, senioritas, review-review pasien lama, sampai ke masalah waiting time di klinik pun pasti jadi pertimbangan. So, let me introduce them, one by one ya. ^.^

  1. Dr. Stephen V. Mandang SpOG (Siloam Hositals)
    (http://www.siloamhospitals.com/doctors/profile/drstephenvmandangspog.html)

    Saya visit dokter ini waktu sebelum married untuk pre-marital check up dan pernah sekali lagi di lain waktu karena haid saya stop untuk 4 bulan lebih.

    Kesan : Dokternya tenang, super friendly, keliatan banget smartnya, matanya tajam, dan yang paling penting GA MATRE (bukan tipe dokter jualan obat). Waktu itu saya minta rekomendasi untuk pre-marital check up, Dok cuma centang beberapa dan I was quite surprised kalo check Toxoplasma ga dimasukin ke dalam check listnya. Dok bilang, di Indo toxo termasuk rare case dan he didn’t think it’s necessary. Untuk haid saya yang lagi ‘macet’, Dok ga kasi obat apapun karena dia bilang it’s just a matter of hormones and stress level.

    Price : IDR 550k -ish just for consultation fee (Tahun 2015, siloam kebon jeruk. Rada lupa pastinya berapa)

    PROS :
    – GA MATRE, bukan tipe jualan obat.
    – Detail banget ceknya, Dok ini once of some doctors yg explained ke saya kalau rahim saya tipe retro (terbalik)
    – Sabar. Kayaknya I spent more than 30mins disitu, saya bawel banget nanya ini itu dan si dok dengan sabar menjawab semuanya
    – Menenangkan. Kan ada tuh tipe dokter yang bawaannya udah bikin panik, jadi pasien bikin panik. Kalo sama Dok Stephen berasa calm aja. He knows what to do.

    CONS :
    – Dok praktek di Siloam, which I don’t favor the hospital due to family history with its unprofessionalism

  2. Dr Ong Tjandra MMPd SpOG (K)
    ( Klinik Sehati : Ruko Voronez, Jl. Raya Kelapa Puan Blok CA 24 No.16-17 Gading Serpong, Tangerang, Banten 15810)

    Saya visit Dok Ong di klinik Sehati, Klinik pribadinya yang berlokasi di Gading Serpong. Saya visit sekitar Desember 2016 karena direkomendasikan teman saya yang udah visit lebih dari 10 OB/GYN dan baru Dok Ong yang menemukan masalah PCOS di dalam rahimnya. Saat itu saya mau mulai program hamil dan berhubung Dok ini super amat sangat jago karena spesialisasinya juga di Onkologi (Saya ada riwayat cancer), jadi saya mau tanya-tanya ke expertnya is it safe or not to conceive. Dalam kunjungan itu, Dok Ong minta saya untuk melakukan PET/CT Scan lagi, untuk make sure semua sel kanker saya sudah dalam posisi dormant, intinya whether I am clean or not to conceive a baby. Dok merujuk ke MRCCC untuk saya do PET/CT Scan.

    Kesan : Dok Ong ini termasuk dalam aliran natural, I didn’t say he’s into Eastern Medical Practice, but he believes that your health depends on what you eat. Dok menyarankan saya untuk kurangi makan daging and try to be a vegetarian (which I did at that time before I got pregnant). Dok Ong termasuk dokter senior yang matanya sangat detail dan ‘awas’ untuk bisa lihat adanya kelainan atau ngga. Oh, and he’s also one of the OB/GYN who tells me kalo rahim saya retro juga.

    Price : IDR 550k for consultation fee and USG

    PROS :
    – He’s a genius and a senior doctor
    – VERY VERY low profile. Dok cuma pake sendal selop and kemeja pendek. Kalo ngga tau itu Dok, maybe udah looks like my grandpa
    – He goes with natural remedy not a medicine hardcore
    – Dok juga praktek di RS Betsaida Summarecon Serpong dan RS Carolus Summarecon Serpong

    CONS :
    – ngantrinya LUAMA banget. You need to book an appointment with him at least 2-3 months in advance, itupun bisa jadi baru dapet jadwalnya malem around 10-11pm ish. Karena during the day, Dok sibuk dengan operasi and the blah blah. Nah, considering waktu tunggu yg ga masuk akal ini, so I decided not to see him anymore. Saya ngga sesabar itu buat booking dan waiting selama itu.

  3. Dr Handaya SpOG
    (Klinik pribadinya di Jl. Citarum No. 2, Cideng)

    Dokter ini adalah dok kandungan mama saya waktu hamil saya. I called him Dukun Bayi. He is a very famous and reputable OB/GYN senior di dunia ginekolog. Saya visit Dok Handaya untuk pertama kalinya waktu make sure whether I am pregnant or not, di kliniknya yang di Citarum. Even though Dok mungkin udah hampir seumur Opa saya, tapi Dok masih tegap gagah, ga ada tremor, seger banget.

    Dok ini agak unik. He still uses the old USG Machine loh tapi mungkin karena Dok udah bantu ribuan baby untuk lahir kayaknya semua udah diluar kepala. Salah satu yang lucu, He measures a fetus weight cuma pake jengkalan tangannya, dan amazingly he could tell nanti pas lahir beratnya berapa dan selalu bener! Moreover, Dok Handaya juga termasuk aliran lahiran PRO-normal hardcore dan anti obat-obatan ga jelas. Saya visit ke Dok Handaya sampai usia kehamilan 20 minggu, dan during that time saya ada tanya mengenai apa perlu saya USG 4D, simpan cordblood, sampai test NIPT (untuk tau kelainan syndrome-syndrome tertentu). Ini jawaban om Dok :
    – USG 4D : ini ga ada kelainan, semua sehat ngapain buang duit buat liat ampe detail.
    – Cordblood : boleh aja simpen, tapi di Indo itu medicalnya belum sanggup untuk apply kalo amit2 mau beneran dipake, jadi minimal harus di spore, dan biayanya itu itungan M, coba deh tanya sama si provider.
    – NIPT : terus kalo udah tau ada kelainan, mau digugurin? Saya cek semua sehat kok.

    LOL. His responses made me laugh, karena emang iya masuk akal sih. Dok ini ga tipe matre. Dok ini very reputable karena doi ngajar juga di UI, so banyak dokter-dokter muda sekarang yang sebenernya murid si Dok. BUT if I tell you how much do I pay him for a consultation and USG, you might not believe me karena ga sebanding dengan kejeniusan dan kepopuleran doi. Oh btw, I quit seeing him not because I have problems with him, tapi karena Dok cuma bisa perform lahiran di RS Medistra dimana itu RS umum and saya mau lahiran di RSIA.

    Kesan : Dok nya nyablak banget. Try to ask him panjang bayinya berapa etc, doi pasti cuma jawab ‘tenang aja cukup’. Atau coba tanya tentang mitos ini itu, pasti nanti diomelin haha. Dok anti banget sama obat-obatan dan vitamin ga jelas. Dok cuma kasih vitamin Folavit di trim 1 dan begitu masuk trim 2 jadi folamil genio dan cal95. that’s it. Ada pantangan makan? NOPE. Eat everything tapi try to avoid seafood dari laut jawa dan raw food. OH OH, he’s also one of the OB/GYNS yang tells me kalo rahim saya retro.

    Price : IDR 500k for consultation fee and USG (So freaking cheap!)

    PROS :
    – Doi Dok Senior yang udah perform more than 28 years ago so he knows thousands of cases.
    – PRO-NORMAL (lahiran) hardcore. Bayi sungsang aja bisa dilahirin normal sama doi
    – Ga matre dan ga jualan obat

    CONS :
    – Kliniknya udah old banget, malahan banyak yang kesana udah oma-oma ^.^’
    – He can tell details to you, tapi he could be quite stern. Mungkin karena he knows what he does dan sometimes kita bumil suka over paranoid LOL
    – Dok cuma bisa perform lahiran di RS Medistra (which is itu RS umum, if you’re like me yang lebih comfortable di RSIA, mungkin you might find this as an issue)

  4. Dr Irham Suheimi SpOG
    (http://www.morulaivf.co.id/id/doctor/dr-irham-suheimi-spog)

    Setelah dari Dr Handaya, saya dan hubby memutuskan untuk ke Dr Irham Suheimi di RSIA Bunda. Why? Merely because hubby, in-laws sama my parents maunya saya lahiran di RSIA Bunda, karena mereka dulu melahirkan di Bunda. Siapa sih yang ngga kenal RSIA Bunda Menteng, RS-nya artis dan yang terkenal waktu tunggunya bisa bikin pantat rata.

    So, Why did I choose him? Sebenernya awalnya mau milih Prof Dr Joso, tapi karena om dok baru praktek sore dan baca-baca dari blog orang kalo waiting timenya bisa sampe jam 11 malam, dadah goodbye deh. Besides, I live in Tangerang dan RSIA Bunda ada di Menteng, well you can imagine. So among any other OB/GYN I chose Dr Irham.

    Kesan : Dok nya super friendly, begitu masuk disambut dengan senyum hangat dan ceria, walaupun itu pasti udah begadang berapa malem hahaha. Suaranya menenangkan dan he looks smart. During some visitation, kadang doknya suka terburu-buru, mungkin mengingat antrian pasiennya yang mengular ya. He gave me his cellphone number so you can whatsapp him anytime, tapi slow response ya sis.

    Price : IDR 585k consultation fee and USG (RSIA Bunda)

    PROS :
    – Dok ini terkenal banget sama tangannya yang dingin dan kerjanya rapih (in case you need stitches kan)
    – Kalem dan friendly jadi kita ga panik
    – Humoris. Tiap kali visit selalu becanda-becanda terus.

    CONS :
    – He’s so famous, so Dok hampir selalu ada tindakan, jadi expect penambahan waktu tunggu 1-2jam. Tiap visit saya selalu datang paling pagi jam 5.30 am demi dapet no antrian nomer 1, dan berakhir baru ketemu dokter jam 10-11ish haha. Oh, mereka ga akan kasi tau dari awal kalau dokter ada tindakan, so biasanya setelah pantat kebas nunggu 3 jam, pas kita tanya ke suster baru deh mereka kasi tau kalo dokter lagi tindakan. Mana kursinya ga bersahabat buat pantat bumil -.-
    – I think the cons lebih ke RSnya yah. Entah karena udah terkenal atau gimana, but suster-susternya agak songong as if they want to say : u need us, we dont need you.
    – Waktu perjalanan dan waktu tunggu akhirnya membuat saya memutuskan untuk quit seeing him, karena takut in case of emergency, it’d be too late.

  5. Dr. med. Ferdhy Suryadi Suwandinata, SpOG(K-FER)
    (Praktek di RSIA Family dan RSIA Grand Family)
    (http://www.antotehe.ga/2015/05/dr-med-ferdhy-suryadi-suwandinata-spog.html)

    Nah, ini dia Dokter ganteng, lucu, super bae, ramah, reachable yang akhirnya saya putuskan untuk jadi dokter yang bantu unyil keluar dari rahim saya. Awalnya saya di-introduce ke Dok Ferdhy lewat temen saya yang sukses IVF setelah 3 tahun penantian dan jackpot dapet triplets. Doi ini dokter lulusan jerman yang juga merupakan tangan kanannya Dokter Ong Tjandra. Dok Ferdhy terkenal banget dengan tangan dinginnya (mulai dari IVF, inseminasi sampai operasi laparoskopi yang njelimet itu).

    Let me tell you my story… Up until I was 28 weeks pregnant, saya masih pegang 2  OB/GYN : Dr Irham Suheimi dan Dr Ferdhy Suwandinata. Why?
    1. The whole family masih insists saya untuk lahiran di RSIA Bunda, BUT hati dan insting saya maunya lahiran sama Dr Ferdhy. Ada chemistry dan rasa peaceful yang saya dapat dengan Dr Ferdhy, even though both doctors are seriously geniuses and super kind.
    2. Karena lokasi saya di Tangerang, it’d be easier for me to reach Dr Ferdhy di PIK daripada di Menteng, in case of emergency (dan terbukti akhirnya, wait a minute, I will tell you.)

    Sekitar awal October 2016, saya ada visit RSIA Grand Family with my parents, dan honestly judging from its price compared dengan hygiene-fasilitas, harga itu OVERRATED banget! So my parents tetep insisted untuk saya lahiran di RSIA Bunda. Until there came an emergency situation.

    It was Tuesday morning, usia kandungan saya masuk 32 weeks. Biasanya unyil aktif heboh ga berenti mulai dari 6pm sampe subuh, tapi di hari itu mulai dari jam3 sore hari sebelumnya saya sama sekali ga merasakan gerakan apapun dari unyil sampai jam 10 pagi besokannya. Panik donk! I tried to call RSIA Bunda untuk ketemu Dr Irham, tapi ga bisa karena appointment harus minimal 2 minggu sebelumnya. I tried to call Dr Handaya, tapi katanya saya baru bisa ketemu dengan nunggu jam prakteknya nanti malam. Ditengah kebingungan itu sembari siap-siap mau ke Dr Stephen Mandang di Siloam Karawaci, saya whatsapp Dr Ferdhy. Dok akhirnya replied pas saya baru jalan dari rumah dan bilang kalau Dok yang akan ke serpong supaya saya lebih dekat dan suruh saya untuk ke klinik Dr Ong saja supaya Dok bs bantuk cek. I was like, seriously?? Btw, he knew loh kalo saya bakal lahiran bukan sama doi tapi sama dok Irham, but still diluar jam prakteknya, Dok mau bantu untuk cek unyil yang mamanya ini udah nangis-nangis heboh. So…….. I told my hubby,’ Aku akan lahiran sama Dok Ferdhy, no matter what your parents and my parents said. This is a cue from God and universe.’ Coba deh, mana ada sih dokter yang bela-belain drive all the way dari Pluit buat periksa yang bukan pasiennya, mana turned out dia ada operasi juga di Betsaida Serpong pas itu.

    Kesan : I’ve never found Dokter yang super humble dan baik banget kayak gini. Guess what, saya USG 4D dengan doi hanya bayar IDR 200k di kliniknya. Yes, you heard me right. Itu USG lengkap 4D loh untuk liat organ vital. Saya USG 4D 2x karena doi bilang usia kandungan 18-22 week paling pas untuk cek organ vital (selebihnya uda ketutup fat), dan usia kandungan diatas 28 week untuk cek muka.

    Price : IDR 500k ( Klinik Sehati) dan IDR 200k (Klinik Dharma Husada). I will update the price di RSIA Grand Family nanti.

    PROS :
    – Genius dan matanya tajem. Di week 16, Dok uda bilang kalo unyil is a boy. Di week 22, Dr Irham bilang unyil was a girl. unyil emang bandel banget, 6x usg dia selalu nutup pahanya. Daaaaaannn… terbukti Dr Irham merevisi kalo unyil ternyata is a boy. Sampe di week 32, juga dari USG 4D terlihat testisnya unyil
    – Kalem dan humoris. Dr Irham bilang kalo unyil lehernya kelilit tali puser, yang turned out setelah diliat sama Dr Ferdhy, tali pusernya cuma ngalung, not even sampe ke tengkuknya unyil
    – easy to contact and reachable. You know what, lagi malem takbiran jam 12 malem aja doi reply whatsapp saya pas saya panik karena kaki bengkak kayak kaki gajah. (waktu itu baru 1x cek ke doi)
    – genuinely kind hearted. You read my story.
    – ga matre dan anti obat-obatan
    – he looks like marcelino lefrandt, in short he’s so good looking. LOL. Oh well, this is a bonus. :p

    CONS :
    – I don’t have any cons on him except that he could only perform lahiran di RSIA grand family or family yang overpriced.

Jadi, demikianlah hasil review saya dari OB/GYN shopping selama ini. Main rule saya adalah saya ga mau dokter matre dan jualan obat. Dan berhubung saya niatnya mau lahiran normal, I looked up for those yang emang Pro-Normal. Semua dokter yang yang saya elaborate di atas itu dokter-dokter terkenal, pinter banget dan all of them are reputable. Some circumstances dan chemistry yang bikin saya decided untuk settle dengan Dr Ferdhy Suwandinata (despite the fact of RSIA Grand Fam). Mungkin ini kali ya yang namanya pilih dokter itu cocok-cocokan. I hope my post helps you out. Good luck with your pregnancy!

Here is a sneak peak of my little munchkin :

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my little munchkin, 32 weeks 

p.s : please do PM me, should you have any question that I could help you out.

Love,

Vness

 

 

Pregnancy Journey : Trying to Conceive

26 Oct

Hello everyone!

It took me so long to get back to blogging my recent life events. For the past months, LOTS of things have happened : got a new job in a socialite billionaires’ circle (but sadly I had to quit due to my pregnancy), traveled to Japan (I will write my story, tips and itinerary of Japan in  different posts) and the biggest of all is GETTING PREGNANT!

Well, I guess it all started in February 2016 when the in-laws and my parents started to urge me not to postpone getting pregnant. Honestly, personally, I wanted to postpone getting a baby for another year. For God’s sake, I still have many places to travel to and also I just got a VERY VERY interesting job in a billionaires’ and government’s circle, AND crying baby was the last thing in my mind. To put it short, I WASN’T READY. Yet as everyone knows, in Chinese family, it would become a problem if you’re married and no sign of babies. Me and my hubby are the first child in our families, and he is the first and only son in his family, so the tale about passing on the family lineage is considered their first priority after us getting married. Hence, we started to give in to their requests and trying to conceive.

Here are some of our efforts that we thought most of it were ridiculous :p

  1. Ovutest Scope 


    A friend of mine suggested me to monitor my ovulation cycle with this thing. LOL. Seriously, at first it’s kinda fun to put your saliva on its tiny lens by licking it by the time you woke up and then to look at it closely, just like you use a microscope. Yet sooner, I felt so silly to use this stuff EVERYDAY just to make sure that my eggs are ready, I’m fertile and lets have sex. So, I think I only used this thing for a week. However, some of my friends succeed in getting pregnant with the help of this ovulation tracker mini microscope😛
  2. Traditional Chinese Medicine
    My mother-in-law believes that I didn’t consume enough Chinese Herbs throughout my 28 years life, so she gave me lots and lots of Chinese medicine to me to strengthen my uterus. Do not ask me how does it taste. It tastes and smells so frickin’ horrible that I would vomit every time I smelled it if I didn’t consider the expensive price.

    This supplement is believed to be the extract of black chicken to boost women’s fertility and treat gynecological problems. Yes, all black, in and out (bones, meat, skin), except for its white feather. It is also believed that you just need to drink it once or twice the second day after your period ends and that’s it, you’ll get pregnant. The name is Bai Feng Wan (白凤丸). You have to dilute the pill in hot boiled water and drink it. FYI, the pill is the size of tennis-table ball, black-brown colored and covered in a wax shell. I had this once and I ended up giving the rest of the pills to my friend.

    If you’re in Indonesia, you can buy it from www.mandjur.co.id 

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  3. Japanese Amulets (Omamori)
    We went to Japan for two weeks from end of March-early April 2016. By this time, we haven’t taken getting pregnant into our serious thoughts. We did try a couple of recommendation yet we were at the state of nothing-to-lose. When we were in Japan, I’d always wanted to have some Japanese Lucky Charms for souvenirs since everyone said that it is a must. So, when we visited some famous temples there, I bought the amulets just for fun, merely because the pouches were cute. I bought one in Asakusa temple for 500 yen (I forgot the exact price) and the other one from a random temple in Arashiyama Bamboo Grooves in Kyoto. There are LOTS of amulets with different specific purpose, I picked ones for family and marriage. Hubby bought one too for his Actuary Exam😛

    Omamori grew to be popular under both Shintoism (神道) and Buddhism (仏教 “bukkyou”) in Japan. Priests thought putting the power and strength of the gods into small pocket-sized blessings/prayers would keep people safe and motivated. Initially, their main purpose was to keep away evil spirits, and to protect patrons from bad experiences. Over time, they developed hundreds of kinds of omamori. The main rule is NEVER ever open the omamori and take it everywhere with you (but I keep it somewhere in my wardrobe :P)

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    These are the Omamori that I bought

  4. Sarubobo Doll

Another tale from Japan is Sarubobo Doll. Sarubobo means ‘monkey baby’. You can find this cute-but-strange doll in Takayama Gifu Prefecture, Japan. Originally, these dolls are made by grandmothers to be given to their grandchildren as an omen of good fortune in life. It is also believed to help women with an easy childbirth.

We visited Takayama during our Japan holiday and we were soooooooo in love with the town (I gotta blog my Japan holiday soon). Back to sarubobo, it is a red human-shaped doll, faceless, and comes in many colors and sizes. The seller said that a different color has different meaning, but since I didn’t understand what he talked about, I just bought the red one. Initially, I just bought one as a souvenir for my best friend who was pregnant and to wish her a safe delivery, yet I was wondering when can I visit this place again in the future, so I also bought one for myself. It’s cute and weird anyway. ^^

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My Sarubobo Doll

Well, those were our ‘attempts’ to get pregnant, which were not even considered an attempt.

Long story short, it was April 19th 2016, the day when my uncle passed away. I had to go to the funeral house with my sister since my parents got dengue fever. That night, my sister told me to get a pregnancy test, out of the blue. There is a belief that if you’re pregnant, you can’t visit a funeral house, leave alone seeing the corpse, since it’s believed that the dead might ‘take’ your baby to their realm or the dead will haunt you throughout your pregnancy. Sounds scary, huh?

That night, my sister kept  bugging me to get a pregnancy test, if I didn’t get pregnant then we’d go to the funeral house. Hence, I took the test right after I got home from work. The test pack show that I am pregnant. No kidding. For a few minutes, I was shocked. I wasn’t thrilled yet. I was so freaking scared. Why? Because for the past few weeks since I came back from Japan, I went out frequently with my friends to drink. I drank too much alcohol almost every weekend since I thought there won’t be any more all-you-can-drink day once I got pregnant. Moreover, I was forcing myself to go on a diet by having a daily hardcore yoga since I was overweight at that time and I wanted to be in an ideal shape before I get pregnant. Not to forget, my new job required me to run here and there with high heels all day long. I was so scared that there might be something wrong with the fetus inside me because of the alcohol and my extreme activities. I told my husband about my pregnancy and unlike any other couple, he was so calm and asked me to visit an obgyn at the soonest.

The next day, I tried another two pregnancy tests and it showed two stripes which means : I am still pregnant. I visited the obgyn that evening, and guess what, I was 4 weeks pregnant. Holycow! I was thrilled, yes of course. But I was more anxious now that I have been pregnant all those time and I did abuse my fetus unintentionally.

Anyhow, there goes my story to get pregnant. Did we try? Yes we did, even though we took it for fun and lightly. When we were in Japan, we  didn’t even think to try making a baby. LOL. I am a travel junkie so I spent every minute enjoying all foods, trips, scenery, and every detail I could get. I ate LOTS and LOTS of fresh sashimi, drank bottles of sake, and always on the run to catch the trains.

We would say that we got lucky. As everyone knows that there are TONS of rules to follow when you try to get pregnant such as avoid alcohol, have sex in certain styles, monitor the ovulation cycle, get plenty of rest, stop eating raw food and blah blah. If I took a look back at all my ‘attempts’, I did bend all those rules.

So, what I meant to say is, no matter how hard you try to get pregnant or avoid pregnancy, if mother universe let you get knocked up, you will. I didn’t mean to say that you should not follow those common rules, it’s just maybe, MAYBE, you need to let thing go as it is and just enjoy the flow. I understand the burden of longing for a child, I have some friends who have tried EVERYTHING (from insemination, Traditional Chinese Medicine, acupuncture, you name it) and still can’t get pregnant. It breaks my heart to see them trying with no result while there are others who have a one-night-stand and boom, they got pregnant.

I consider this whole thing about pregnancy as a mystery. I’ve always been a well-planned person except for my pregnancy. I would convince myself that perhaps God trusts me that I am ready to be a parent. To be honest, deep in my heart, there was a tiny bit annoyance, because of this pregnancy I need to put my baby’s needs first and I need to let my planned vacation go, not to forget lots of other things such as career, hangover nights, ideal-shaped body, junk foods etc. BUT again, by the time you get pregnant, it means that you are taking a SERIOUS responsibility for the rest of your life. You will grow a human inside your body and raise him/her to be a decent human being. That’s A LOT to take.

Pregnancy is not a get away to have a baby so you can play barbie/ken with him/her. Your undivided focus and plans are now for your child. It takes a life-time commitment not just a 40-weeks commitment. As for me, my unplanned pregnancy has led me to a new person, less of me, more of my baby.

For those of you who are trying to conceive, best of luck! Please do remember, your peaceful mind is a must and do enjoy the process. It does take a lot of efforts for some people but after all, I guess fate brings you to it. Whatever will be, will be!

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p.s : you can PM me should you want me to share the details of my story

Love,

Vness

 

 

 

 

 

 

All is good

18 Jan

It’s been months of struggles, from marriage drama to growing my business. Everyday feels like another problem and obstacle to solve, but I can’t even figure it out. Every day tempted me to give up and to just quit all plans and dreams. I cannot see any way out. Then there is this one song, sang at my pre-marriage course and it made me cried my heart out. How I have been struggling alone, leaving my God out, using my own strength. I feel ashamed of myself. I used to have a strong faith that God will help me through anything. This song reminds me that God is still there, He has planned all the goods I cannot see.

The song is in Bahasa Indonesia

Smua Baik

Dari semula, tlah Kau tetapkan
hidupku dalam tanganMu
dalam rencanaMu, Tuhan
Rencana indah, tlah Kau siapkan
bagi masa depanku yang penuh harapan

Smua baik, smua baik
apa yang tlah Kau perbuat didalam hidupku
Smua baik, sungguh teramat baik
Kau jadikan hidupku berarti

Maybe I cannot see what is standing in front of me. I am afraid to overcome my future. One thing I am sure, God has planned a beautiful future for me.

Ness

12 Hal Bodoh yang gw Percaya

12 Jan

One of the inspiring article I’ve ever read.

Tulisan Krisnanda

a journey a journey

12 hal bodoh yang dulu gw percaya dalam perjalanan kekristenan gw. Beberapa masih susah dihilangkan dari prinsip hidup gw karena sudah tinggal di otak gw selama bertahun-tahun. Beberapa hal bodoh ini mungkin juga nantinya terbukti tidak bodoh since I have high probability to be wrong again. Who knows? But for now, I think they are stupid. Dan maaf kalau banyak kata2 keras (moron contohnya) di tulisan ini. It just tells me how moron I could be. :p

 1. Kalau orang Kristen  pasti harus healthy, wealthy, and happy dan sukses di market place

Ini jualan paling laku di mimbar gereja. Ditambah bumbu-bumbu iman dan menjadi berkat. Kalau emang konsep ini benar, kedua belas muridnya Yesus atau Paulus mungkin tidak qualified untuk jadi orang Kristen. Paulus punya sakit yang ga hilang-hilang dan terdampar di perahu. Healthy mananya? Petrus meninggal dengan disalib terbalik. Happy mananya? Yesus perlu mancing dulu buat dapeting uang…

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Bridezilla – part 1

12 Jan

First of all, HAPPY NEW YEAR 2015 to you all!

It’s been ages since the last time I posted something to this blog, feeling a bit guilty for abandoning my secret trash bin.

Anyway, I have a very legitimate excuse for my absence here. For the past 4 months (less or more, not so sure anymore), I’ve been planning for my marriage life and took care of my food business. Yes, you heard it right, marriage = wedding. After all the family drama, leave alone my own drama, I agreed to finally settle down. Do not expect a romantic proposal or else. Not that I don’t love the ‘will you marry me’ session and the shiny diamond ring, it’s just the situation is a bit (or more) complicated. But I still want that solitaire Tiffany’s ring *tear*

So, I don’t know if I am actually engaged or what, but the guy is there and the plan is rapidly settled. You must have eager to know who’s the guy, but I’m gonna reveal him to you once I become a MRS *evil grin*

Being engaged to a Chinese descendant is seriously a pain in the ass. From the ‘good date’, the tradition, the ceremony, the fengshui, the color, and every friggin’ detail is seriously excruciating. You know, I’ve always wanted a simple intimate western wedding ON the beach, where you can enjoy chit chat with closed friends accompanied by the breezing wind and the sound of the waves. However, some things are not meant to happen. But hey, at least, I will have a beach cliff wedding.

Year 2015 is a royal wedding year for me. How so? I will at least have 4 different wedding reception/ceremony/party on my own :

So, here is the list :

  • May 2015
    Since the groom’s family side is Catholic, they insist to have a blessing by the Catholic Church. Lucky me, I was born from a Catholic Father and a Protestant Mother, so I have all the church certificate required. Heck, I don’t even care if a Buddhist blessed my marriage. I don’t freakin’ care with religious institution. BUT, they insist, so I follow.

    Oh and Oh, the process and requirements for a blessing ceremony in Catholic church is soooooooooo damn annoying. I’ll explain the steps in my next post for those who need guidance (i will be using Bahasa Indonesia).

  • Early June 2015
    We are having a wedding dinner reception for Groom’s colleagues, Groom’s Parents’ business partners and my colleagues
  • Mid June 2015
    Groom’s parents are planning to have a little celebration with their 100+ factory workers for the wedding of their son and announce me to them.
  • August 2015
    After a long debate (always drama) for deciding the good date, groom’s family asked their fortune-teller to choose a date according to the Chinese astrological book when it would be proper and propitious to hold the wedding ceremony. This took almost 3 months process and 3-4 changes of date. Oh, they also consult my birth date to a fortune teller to predict whether that could match their son’s and whether there would be a happy marriage. The Chinese zodiac would be surely taken into consideration. Both of us are dragons, so there must be another ‘terms and conditions’ to avoid a bad luck. Same Chinese zodiac is considered a bad combination for a wedding according to Chinese people, but can be avoided if certain rules are implemented. (Usually the rules are ridiculous :P)

    Actually, this is what I considered my real wedding. There will be a blessing from a Priest and private intimate dinner reception in Bali. Yes, IT’S BALI!😀 I will explain the long preparation and the details about Wedding in Bali in my next post.🙂

  • After August 2015
    This schedule is still tentative but my future mother-in-law also insists to have another party just for her friends!

Thank God, there has been only 4 plans up until now, I do not wish for another reception.

As I told you, I’m getting married to a Chinese descendants, means there are requirements and traditions to follow. Below is the guidelines for Chinese wedding traditions (Taken from wiki and customize with the family tradition):

1. Selection of Date (done already)

The first step is the selection of auspicious dates (看日子) for the Chinese wedding, the betrothal and the installation of the bridal bed. A Chinese monk or a temple fortune teller selects a suitable date based on the couple’s birth dates and times. Some may also refer to the Chinese calendar or almanac for good days. Even numbered months and dates are preferred, and the lunar seventh month is avoided as it is the month of the Hungry Ghost Festival.

After the selection of the auspicious dates, wedding details such as types and quantities of betrothal gifts, reciprocal gifts, bride price (娉金), and number of tables at the wedding banquet provided by the groom’s parents for the bride’s parents’ guests are settled.

2. Betrothal

Up to three months or earlier before the wedding day, the groom will deliver the betrothal gifts to the bride’s family on an auspicious date.送

The betrothal (Chinese: 過大禮; pinyin: guo dàlǐ, also known as 納彩 or nàcǎi) is an important part of the Chinese wedding tradition. During this exchange, the groom’s family presents the bride’s family with betrothal gifts (called 聘礼 or pìnlǐ) to symbolize prosperity and good luck.Moreover, the bride’s family receives the bride’s price (Chinese: 娉金; pinyin: pīng jīn; literally: “abundant gold”) in red envelopes. The bride’s family also returns (回禮, huílǐ) a set of gifts to the groom’s side. Additionally, the bride’s parents bestow a dowry (嫁妝, jiàzhuāng, kè-chng) to the bride.

My future mother-in-law is Hokkien Chinese. In the Hokkien race, the betrothal rite is known as sang jit-thau (送日頭, sàng-ji̍t-thâu) or its abbreviated form sang jit.

Betrothal gifts unique to the Hokkien include pig trotters, rice candies, fruits, red wine. Household items are also given to the bride, symbolic of the duties she will assume as wife.  

3. Presenting Wedding Gift

This was the grandest etiquette of the whole process of engagement. Prolific gifts were presented again to the girl’s family, symbolizing respect and kindness towards the girl’s family as well as the capability of providing a good life for the girl.

In the tradition applied here, Groom’s family will also bring set of jewelries, clothes, dresses, purses, shoes, sandals, cosmetics, bath amenities. Bride’s family will return the favor by giving the groom a set of clothes, trousers, wallets, wristwatch, socks, shoes. 

4. Delivery of the Bride’s dowry

The bride’s parents may include the bride’s dowry (嫁妆, jiàzhuāng) with the return gifts on the day of betrothal or deliver the dowry a few days before the wedding.Chinese dowry typically includes:

  • beddings (e.g. pillows, bolsters, comforter set, blankets, bed sheets)
  • new clothes for the bride in a suitcase (in the past, wardrobes or wooden wedding chests were used)
  • tea set for the wedding’s tea ceremony (will explain later)
  • a spittoon of baby items (子孙桶, including baby bathtub, potty, face washbasin, tumblers, toothpaste and toothbrushes, mirror, comb)
  • two pairs of red wooden clogs, wedding slippers or bedroom slippers
  • a sewing basket (with even numbered rolls of colourful thread, needles, pincushion, scissors, and sewing wax with auspicious words on it)
  • gold jewelry given by bride’s parents

Well now, would you agree with me that these complete non-sense stuff is a pain in the ass? ROFL. Please bear my mood swing the upcoming days since I am dealing with all the traditions and long non-sense procedure.

I think that’s all for now. I guess, I’ll update you with my ‘royal wedding’ in the next post and I won’t forget to explain about the church procedure, the Bali wedding prep, and the civil registration procedure.

Cheers from the Bridezilla,

Ness

The Traveler’s Diary : Derawan Island, Borneo

23 Oct

So, 2014 has been a year of travelling for me. I went to Surabaya, Derawan Island (Borneo), Belitung Island, Bangka Island (Sumatra), Bali (again) and Makassar (Sulawesi). Yes, I went all over the main islands in Indonesia, except Papua (soon baby, soon). Each and every island has its own beauty and ofcourse, wonderful beaches! I love beach, though being in a tropical country means the sunburn effect would be worse than ever.

Lets start the story of 4 days/3 nights at Derawan Island, Borneo.

1-4 May 2014

Day 1

We departed from Soekarno-Hatta International Airports in the morning around 9 am. It’s best to depart as early as possible, since we have to catch the ferry boat before 1 pm. Our flight went for a 45 minutes transit in Balikpapan, then we continue the flight to Tarakan airport.

Derawan can be reached by 2 routes :

1. Road Route : means you have to go to Berau, instead of Tarakan, and continue the trip to Derawan using offroad vehicle. We didin’t choose this, since it will take around 2 hours trip on BUMPY road.

2. Sea Route : means you have to go to Tarakan Island, go straight to the harbour and continue the trip to Derawan using speedboat for 3 hours. We chose this option since it’s the ocean that we’re after, no? However, as we go against the tide, the trip was REALLY bumpy. I knocked by head hear and there. But hey, that’s part of the fun!

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Around 4 pm, we arrived at Mirroliz pelangi cottage. It’s a floating cottage, on the water. No, we didn’t go to the harbour since they actually have no official harbour. Almost every cottage here has their own ‘harbour’. The cottage wasn’t really good. I am a hygiene freak so personally I wouldn’t recommend this if you are somewhat similar to me. But this place is okay, some of the rooms are provided with Air-con, and trust me, you really need Air-con if you don’t want to get soaked at your sleep. There is no wind AT ALL during the night.

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We didn’t start our activity today since we need to gather our energy for the second day. There were some warung /restaurants there, but I wouldn’t recommend this since they will cost you a very expensive price (especially if you’re foreigners). Our travel agent arranged all-u-can-eat meal from breakfast to dinner, so we just enjoyed what they have prepared for us.

I am a foodie, and I wasn’t impressed at all with the seafood and food from Derawan. Most of them were tasteless and chewy. The villagers are somewhat living a modern lifestyle so they don’t really have their authenticity anymore. Avoid instant noodle (Indomie) there, we paid IDR 15,000 for an instant noodle there. The price was 3 times more expensive that the one in Jakarta. However, have as many coconut water as you can! The coconut was gigantic and cost for only IDR 10,000!!! We had like 4-5 coconuts per day (much better than having a pocari sweat that costs IDR 10,000 per bottle).

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DAY 2

This day was when the actual fun begin! Our trip today consists of Maratua Island and Kakaban Island. My advice for the day : leave your non-waterproof items back in the cottage, bring your underwater camera / go pro / waterproof photography thing, bottles of water, tubes of sunblocks.

MARATUA ISLAND

Maratua Island is located in the Derawan Archipelago off the north coast of East Kalimantan. It is a large tropical island partially encircling a massive lagoon on one end and fringed with sheer rocky walls and coral reefs along the other end. This island is belong to Indonesian, HOWEVER, due to this corrupted government, there are rumors that this island has been sold to the Malaysian. God knows the truth, but the fact is the only resort here is managed by Malaysian and you have to pay an entrance ticket if you want to visit the island through their resort.

Our speedboat was anchored near the beach there and we jumped on to the water with our snorkeling gear attached. The only word came out from my mouth was : WOW!

I can’t stop to say over and over again about how beautiful is this. The scenery is closer to the image of the famous Maldives.

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All around us was white smooth sands brushing our feet and our eyes were spoiled with the crystal clear turquoise water. Trust me, when you land your feet here, there was nothing you want to do except jump into the water as stay there as long as possible.

We stayed here for around 2 hours since the grey clouds were coming and we need to catch the weather to explore Kakaban Island, the Jellyfish island.

KAKABAN ISLAND

It took around only 15 minutes to go from Maratua to Kakaban. The most distinctive feature of this island is the huge brackish water lake in the middle of the island, in the local dialect Kakaban means “hug” as the island hugs the lake from the surrounding seawater. In the middle of this island is a mangrove-fringed lake, slightly above sea level, where thousands of non-stinging jellyfish live making it interesting for diving. The lake is at most 17 metres (56 ft) deep with poor visibility and is 10 minutes walk from the beach. Kakaban was probably uplifted during the Holocene and sea water was trapped turning the area and formed a landlocked marine lake. The water is now a mixture of salt water and sweet water from the rain.

To reach the lake, we have to go over hundreds of stairs, through the jungle. Don’t worry, they built wooden stairs so it’s easy to follow and believe me, the lake view and jellyfishes you’re about to meet, is worth to go for. Remember, there is no restaurant or warung here, since nobody is living here, so bring enough of water bottle to keep you hydrated.

This is how the lake looks like.. All you have to do is wear your snorkel gear and jump from that platform.

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It’s VERY difficult to take pictures in the water, so I could only managed to ‘catch’ one jellyfish and took it with me for a picture taking. In reality, there are thousands of jellyfish there as you swim around. Don’t worry, they are sting-less. And cute!

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We spent 2 hours here and our travel agent had prepared our lunchbox here, so we climbed back the stiars and took a place nearby the welcome gate to have our lunch with beautiful sea view of Kakaban Island. During this time, the sea water level would be very low so the boat cannot pick us up to the beach. So we have to reach the boat by walking through the sea corals which are very sharp. I slipped when I was about to climb the boat ladder so I had my knee terribly injured and bleeding. Add it with the salty sea water, and yes, perfect.

Next destination was to snorkel around the steep wall of Kakaban Island where thousands of  various kind of colorful fishes, nemo, barracuda, etc. I didn’t manage to get pictures here since my underwater camera broke down (note to self, not to bring a cheap camera for a priceless journey). At this point, I was mesmerized by the beauty of this islands, everything was beyond my imagination. I have never seen nature could be this wonderful. Not to spend more time inside the boat, I climbed to the top of the boat and decided to spend the rest of my journey by sitting on the top of the boat. What did I get?  a 360 degree scenery!

Yes it’s scary with the bumpy boat across the tides.

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The sunburn was pretty bad!

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We spent around 2 more hours snorkeling and went straight back to our cottage immediately. We were extremely exhausted, yet VERY HAPPY!

Due to circumstances, we were moved to another cottage named “PENGINAPAN REZA”. It was actually a good thing since we got a brand new water cottage with air-con and our cottage was located at the very front of the area. During the night, we sat down on the balcony and when we looked up, thousands of sparkling stars were shining. A night scenery that I never got to see when I was in the city.It was priceless, how the dark night could be very peaceful. I would recommend this for you who look for a good budget water cottage.

This is the kind of view we had from our new cottage.

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From our balcony

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Sunset day 2

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DAY 3

The last fun day of our journey, with destinations : Sangalaki Island and Pulau Gusung.

What did we do here? Right, nothing but snorkeling and taking hundreds of pictures!

Again, as my camera broke down, I didn’t get the underwater pictures. But believe me, the underwater scenery in Sangalaki Island was incredibly awesome!!! We also went to look down for Manta Ray, but unfortunately we could only see its shadow.  There is a turtle reservation in Sangalaki Island, as we all know that turtles are now endangered species. People love to hunt them down for food or decoration.

SANGALAKI ISLAND

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My sister with a baby turtle

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Pulau Gusung 

Approximately 10 mins from Derawan, you can explore Gusung Island during low tide. This dune is one of the best spot to see the crystal clear sea water and the whitest sands over the islands.

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I didn’t use any filter on any of this pictures. The real scenery were really beautiful with no editing required.

We spent 2 hours here before we head back to Derawan Island. This was considered our last day in Derawan Island since tomorrow early in the morning we have to catch a flight from Tarakan to Jakarta.

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The sunrise on Day 4, taken from our cottage balcony

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Note for travelers :

  1. Bring enough cash, there is no ATM there. I brought IDR 2 mio only for street snacks and watersports. All meals, cottage, boat, snorkel gear, flight tickets are included in the tour package I took.
  2. You can contact this person for Derawan Arrangement (boat, snorkel, dive, land arrangement, airport pick up, meals), they are very reliable and I would recommend him : Jeme – 0852 9155 5555 or Pieter 08125516 5555
  3. Bring your own underwater camera. This is a must-have item to record all your journey. Buy a good one.
  4. Do not buy souvenirs from the locals there, they have marked up the price. Do not eat any seafood or lobster or crabs there, they have increased the price at least 3 times higher.
  5. Try the squid satay sold by the street warung there.
  6. Try to have 1 or 2 nights stay at Maratua Paradise Resort
  7. If your flight was depart from Jakarta, avoid Lion Air, they are sucks. Choose Sriwijaya Air, instead.

So, that’s all my journey from Derawan Island. I will definitely go back to this Island and spend more time there. Contact me anytime for questions, I’d be glad to help.

Cheers,

Ness

I hope one day…

8 Oct

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Dear you,

I hope one day you can see just how special you are.

I hope one day you could believe that you are loved and deserve to be happy

I hope one day you could trust me that I meant everything I said to you.

I hope one day you can look back at our story and smile… because it happened.

Oh how I hope that one day will come to you soon

-Ness-

12 qualities of women that men should never let her go

12 Sep

Every once in a while – on very rare occasions – we meet the woman of our dreams. It’s always unexpected and almost never at a convenient point in our lives, but she appears nonetheless and changes your life forever.

The dynamics between man and woman have been gradually changing for the past few decades, but the essence of the partnership basically remains the same.

We are designed by nature in a way that allows two such opposites to join and make a whole. Finding your other half is a journey of its own – usually a grueling one at that.

If you are lucky enough to find that woman, that rare sunflower growing on a barren desert, then do right by yourself and hold on to her as tightly as you can – never, ever let her go.

Not all of us were so wise when we met the loves of our lives… and believe me when I say that we’re regretting it. If she has any combination of these 12 qualities then you should never let her go:

1. She’s smarter than you.

Every man needs a smarter woman to help him get through life in one piece. They say that behind every great man is a greater woman – they aren’t lying. Without woman, man is little more than an ego-trip.

Enter a smarter woman into his life and suddenly that ego has a purpose, a direction, and the wisdom not to screw everything up.

2. She’s beautiful.

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder – as long as you find her to be incredibly beautiful, according to your definition, then she is worth holding on to.

I feel that these days we have those that put too much emphasis on beauty and then those that are rebelling against the concept and giving little to no importance to beauty.

Beauty is something that has been reveled upon since humans had eyes; it’s not something that we should be ashamed of, but rather something we should learn to appreciate properly.

3. She’s kind and nurturing.

Good people are kind people. If she isn’t kind then she isn’t worthy of taking up a part of your life. Being a woman, being nurturing is very important as well. Some people may not want children.

In some relationships the man may be more nurturing than the woman. Nevertheless, women are born with/develop maternal instincts with age. If you wish to one day start a family then you want to be sure you found a woman who wants to be, and is suited to become, a mother.

4. She’s vivacious.

Life gets difficult from time to time. It can get boring and monotonous just as well.

Women weren’t created to entertain men – if anything, it’s probably the other way around – but having a woman who is lively, energetic and hungry for adventure will add a dynamic to our life that will only make you happier.

5. She loves you with all her heart.

This is, by far, the most important quality any woman can have. When a woman loves you she loves you with her entire soul. It’s not the same sort of love that men experience – men always were and always will be more egocentric than women.

Women, on the other hand, have the uncanny ability to devote themselves entirely to the person(s) they love. If you find a woman that truly loves you then you found the greatest gift in the universe.

6. She’s willing to make compromises.

People are stubborn – both male and female alike. We like things the way that we like them and aren’t especially open to making changes we don’t deem necessary to make. However, relationships require making compromises.

It’s just the way things have to work if you want them to work. Finding a woman who will make compromises is only half the battle, however. You’re going to have to make them just as well.

7. She feels like home.

Being in love, deeply in love, is like finding your place in the world, your home, for the first time in your life. It’s knowing that you are exactly where you ought to be and that there is nowhere in the world you’d rather be.

If you look into her eyes and see your soul reflected in them, then you’re home. Don’t ever leave.

8. She is more than happy to tell you when you’re wrong.

Every man – and I mean every man – needs a woman who will call him out on his sh*t. Guys have an uncanny ability to make poor decisions and do stupid things.

Finding a woman who will keep you on track and tell you when you’re wrong can very well make or break your life.

9. She is strong, but feminine.

All people have a slightly different taste for the women they are attracted to – but they are all a combination of strength and femininity. A strong woman is a partner every man needs.

A feminine woman is… well, a woman. The two aren’t opposites. In fact, they are often one and the same – when found in a woman that knows how to hold her ground and be proud of who she is.

10. She’s passionate.

A life filled with passion is a life worth living. But living a life of passion alone is basically impossible. Passion exists between two living things – usually, in some way or another, between two individuals.

The beauty of passion is that it’s rather contagious. It’s the world’s most revered pathogen.

11. She’s driven.

I understand that some men want women to be stay-at-home wives. I also understand that there are plenty of women who want the very same. This sort of woman isn’t for me, but clearly some people are looking for just this.

Nevertheless, you still want a woman that is driven. If she wants to stay at home, cook, clean, and take care of the children, then make sure she’s the kind of woman that wants to be the best stay-at-home mom she could possibly be. Without drive, there is no purpose.

12. She means the world to you.

Sometimes we love a person beyond imagination and we aren’t sure why. To be truthful, you don’t really need a reason. If you love her and can’t imagine your life without her, then don’t allow yourself to lose her.

If she means that much to you, then understand that she means that much to you. Too often people don’t realize what the other person means to them until they lose them. We always think that there will be another chance, that it’s possible that the two of you will one day reconnect.

Maybe. But the opposite is also true. You may have lost her forever. You may suffer for years and years because you let go of the most important thing in your life. Don’t take the risk.

(Articles courtesy : http://elitedaily.com/dating/gentlemen/12-qualities-find-woman-never-let-go/749353/)

I stumbled upon this article and find it good to be shared for a reminder for clueless men out there who may be still questioned themselves whether she is the one or not.

Cheers,

Ness

Love isn’t practical

11 Sep

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From what I have learnt, love has never been easy

Fron what I have felt, love can hurt so deep

From what I have seen, love can’t always conquer everything

From everything that has been through, some people are meant to fall in love with each other, but not meant to be together.

And yet, loving you is one of the best thing ever happened to me

Ness

Soul mates

22 Aug

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I don’t know how you are so familiar to me—or why it feels less like I am getting to know you and more as though I am remembering who you are. How every smile, every whisper brings me closer to the impossible conclusion that I have known you before, I have loved you before—in another time, a different place, some other existence. (lang leav)

and in this life time, I have to say goodbye to you… again.

I will carry a fragment of you with me, so you could find me your missing piece after life.

So perhaps, I will see you in another life time, in another dimension.

Goodnight, my soul mate.

Ness