“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself. And sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” (Marilyn Monroe)
Helping broken-heart friends out from misery, drags me to the days when I was in their position. I can feel every pain they are feeling now (though it’s not exactly same). I can tell the pain they feel from their words. I want to tell them that I completely understand and get it, but I guess it’s useless.
“If he hurts badly, why is he doing this to us?”
“Do I have a chance to get him back?”
“We were best best-friends, we loved each other for years, and where did it go now?”
Same questions, same complains.
In every broken relationships (talking about a normal one without cheating etc), both sides get hurt. Both are destroyed (although he’s a human with testosterone, he also feels bad, trust me). Both need space and time. Then why are hurting each other? Because, what if it’s the best for both of you. It sounds ridiculous, yeah it’s true. (sadly, love always goes ridiculous)
There are zillions reasons why both of you can’t make it. There’s no need to talk about it. It’s said and done, and what’s done is done. We, girls, are creatures with overdose emotions, I get it if you want to cry a river. Reality might looks shitty now, but later on you’ll see things clearly and get something to learn.
You might do or feel these below :
1. You fb-stalking him more than 3 times a day
2. You’re trying to contact him frequently (with all your make-up motives)
3. You want to hang out with him ASAP
4. You make sure that there’s no new “person” close to him
5. You are looking for a chance that you can get back together again
6. You check your inbox every now and then
7. You feel like you need a rebound person
8. Your heart pounding fast when you meet/see him
9. You’re looking for reasons to meet/contact him (so it might look accidentally)
10. You’re aggree-ing at least 3 of the statements above 😛
(I want to add some more, but you’ll hate me for revealing the ugly truth :P)
All I want to say is, take your time. Don’t rush.
Do care about your own feeling and condition.
Do careless about what he’s doing and how he feels. (Remember, both of you agreed to go separate ways).
Do something else to keep you busy or to distract you
Do keep distance for a while with him (it doesn’t mean that you’re going to be enemies)
Do get rid of his things/pictures
Do move your ass to the gym
Do have yourself introspect-ing
Do realize that it’s called a break-up because IT’S BROKEN
I hate to say this, but there’s no instant tips to get over a break-up. You wish time flies, but during post break-up, time does crawl, lol 😀
Whether in the end you’ll get back together or not, it doesn’t much matter right now. You need time to heal, he needs time to heal.
So IF both of you finally decide to start over, no hard feelings, no trauma, and you start over with a new beginning as a new mature person who learns from mistakes.
And IF you finally decide to start with someone new, you won’t have emotional baggage to put on him and I think it wouldn’t be fair to give your bleeding heart to someone who truly loves you 🙂
(No man is worth your tears & the one who is, won’t make you cry)
Remember, no regrets. You’ve done your best in your relationship, nothing to feel guilt for, none to blame. You loved him before and now be brave, once again, love him enough to let him go 🙂
Even with our fists held high
it never would’ve worked out right
You can’t make it feel right when you know that it’s wrong
I want you to know that it doesn’t matter
Where we take this road someone’s gotta go
And I want you to know that I love you
So I love you enough to let you go
The hardest part of loving someone is knowing when to let go, and knowing when to say goodbye.
I know you can do it, it’s better to be loved and lost than never been in love at all 🙂
p.s: this is just another post of mine about break-ups. You might get bored with this kind of post (honestly,so do I), but well I guess there will always broken heart friends talk to me and makes me want to write something from their stories 😛